By: Philip Brooks
One of my pet peeves are when people look down on themselves. When people say, ” I’m not good enough” I get kind of upset. I believe everyone can be good enough. You are who you are. It’s really a matter of accepting it. Just be the best you can be. If people do not like your best, it really does not matter. Why is someone else in control of how you feel or who you are? There is no set scale of where you need to be to be enough. Enough comes from your acceptance of yourself. I think everyone needs to see it in themselves though for it to matter.
I think that the best example of people trying to accept themselves are scene kids. (Goths, Emos, etc.) Many people may just see a rebellious group of people who are punks. Some may see kids who are just trying to look cool. Some see posers who try to be individuals by fitting into a group of people that are all the same (kind of counter productive). Maybe these are right, I don’t know and it does not matter. I have thought each of these at one point in time. What I think is that… (pause)… these are just some bored KIDS.
I look at Facebook at the millions of typical pictures of kids snapping a photo of themselves in their bathroom mirror acting as if it took them by surprise (come on people, don’t deny it). I have been through countless albums and have seen picture after picture of kids by themselves showing off there hair or makeup or cleavage, whatever. I use to think these kids were just full of themselves. I thought that maybe they were looking for attention. Maybe, but these kids have guts to be what they want at least. They may be looking for acceptance somewhere, maybe through themselves or their peers but at least they are doing something. They change how they look with makeup and skin tight jeans to actively accept themselves into a group of “misfits”. All the human soul searches for is acceptance whether it be in love or among peers. These kids are openly showing that it’s okay to be your self no matter how far off the cultural coast it may be (and lets not forget that it is a culture in itself).
These kids, by all means, were not born with dyed hair and eyeliner on. These kids put this stuff on to show that it doesn’t matter who you are or where you’re from. I mean I’m sure some of the motivation to dress in the fashion is just because it’s fashion; Plus the fashion looks bad a**, but if you take away the simple regularity of fashion and put it to extremes with irregular cloths and erratic hair styles, it takes away the normality of fashion it self. This takes fashion somewhere outside of American Eagle or Abercrombie and Fitch. What I’m trying to say is that it opens doors to the acceptance of all different kinds of people. It takes hatred of normal crowds and turns it into one strange gojira monster of normal-ness. For example, how can discrimination exist in a crowd of diverse people that consist of equally weird people. It kind of forms a new race of people that accepts everyone. This could be the solution to hatred in the world. In conclusion everyone should be Emo! (minus the razor blades and common misconceptions, ouch!)
So really before you judge other people’s lives and sense of style, look at yourself first and ask, “Am I normal?”. Now a days it’s any bodies guess. To me what normal means is really an amount of comfort one feels around certain things. Everyone has there own levels of normal. Once exposed to enough of one thing, the strange starts to come easier. Normal is found with in cultural centers. It varies from one center to another. So be adventuresome and accept yourself for who your are or who you want to be.
As a member of this group, I’m just sharing my thoughts (minus the eyeliner). I don’t think anyone knows what’s going on. At least I don’t. Help me out. comment.